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Doc Lamour,

from NY - USA

Life is not easy. I came from Nebraska to New York a few months ago. And lots of things have changed. I don't know, it seems to me that it's extremely difficult to talk to girls around here. I hope you can help me. What make girls attracted to guys? Do I need to look like a millionaire or what? I hope you will answer my mail.

Thanks for your great website!

All the best. Your fan from New York!



from Paris-France
the city of Love

Hi Andy,

I will be sincere with you, and I will go straight to the point. My answer from Paris is:
Girls are looking for handsome, confident and sexy guys. But girls from big towns, such as Paris or New York, are slightly different, mon ami. No doubt these girls are more difficult to seduce if you come with a small town approach.

Of course, I could say something different in order to be nice. But I am not nice, and you know that my job is to gather facts and present them, unvarnished, to my readers. In less than one second, when walking in a store or in a pub, Men can arouse sexual interest in Women. Or NOT. I am sure that many girls are looking at you, mon ami, because you have what they need. But... you have to work on your style and the way you approach women at the very beginning. Get more subtle and confident. Have a look at a few romantic comedies to understand better feminine values and what girls are looking for in a guy.

When a girl is looking at you, do you appear in her top 5 sexy guys, or does your competition? If you're listed but not within the first two or five in her instant results, YOU LOSE. No matter how many efforts you can do further on.

In general, Girls like Men who do sports, are active, are not too possessive and who make them laugh! AFCH: Active, Fit, Confident, Humor. It's not that difficult, but most guys blew it from the very beginning because they are acting like braggarts. Why? Because they are not confident. If you're really good, you don't have to shout it on the roof. I suggest that you talk less and listen more. As long as a girl hasn't touched you twice, don't do anything because in the end, Man decides, the Woman makes him decide. You need to perceive Sexy signals before moving in. Make sure the girls feel they are important 200%, and let them think they are getting their own way. Got it?

And for heaven's sake: stop acting. Be yourself, mon ami. Because girls are looking for the real Andy!

If you want to know how to make anyone crazy about you, look at the success guide "The French Secrets".

Bonne chance!


Your French Coach,


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About the author: Doc Lamour is a famous dating expert and resides in Paris, the city of love.