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Doc Lamour,

from Sydney - Australia

I love your newsletter! Great help!
My name is Karen, I'm 26. I live in Sydney, Australia. I've been living with 2 different guys by now... but for no more than one year, each time. I don't know, it seems that it never works. I wonder if it's my personality, or maybe because my breasts are too small. Both guys dumped me for girls who have bigger breasts. What make guys attracted to girls?

Looks or personality? Please, tell me what you think. I would love so much to share my life with a man who would love me. I have the feeling that guys don't even look at me. What should I do? What do I have to do to get men's attention? What do guys look for in a girl?


Karen - with small breasts


from Paris-France
the city of Love

Hi Karen,

I will be sincere with you, and I will go straight to the point. My answer from Paris is:
Guys are looking for attractive, pretty and sexy girls.

In less than one second, women can arouse sexual interest in men. Or not.

Men are instantly attracted to girls with who they would like to have a physical relationship. Guys, in Australia and all over the world, like to be with the hottest babe in town. On the long term, they will always enjoy spending time with a girl who looks GOOD. Why? Because it makes them feel good. Your solution is to become more attractive, prettier and more sexy.

I won't deny that some Guys love big breasts. Most men can't resist looking at a girl with big boobs. It is a natural attraction, but truly, this is not their priority when it comes to a serious relationship. Nonetheless, I would say that a girl with big boobs might feel naturally more like a woman, because men KEEP looking at her. And then, maybe she develops an acute sense to choose flattering clothes which make her look more feminine. In that way, she would have a tremendous advantage. On the other hand, it might become unpleasant not to be able to walk freely outside without guys staring at your breast. So, in one way, you're quite lucky.

I have to say that if you dress well, and emphasize your natural feminine shape or just stop hiding them, guys will look at you the same way. The trick is to feel great in your body. Feel inside that you can be sexy, that you are a WOMAN. And that there is no shame in being attractive. It's not being vulgar, it's just being PRETTY, and HAPPY with it.

Personality does count as well, in the first approach and on the long term. I met a few guys from Australia in Paris. Their main reproach about Australian girls was that they were not like French girls. I wondered what they meant and I dug in for more information. Australian guys said that French girls were more feminine. Apparently, they would take more care of themselves. In one word, I would say these Oz Guys were unhappy because they didn't feel like men with Australian women. There is a difference between Men and Women, and apparently in Australia the difference can be very little.

Karen, I suggest that you make that difference bigger, and become irresistible. How? First, work on your personality, try to be more feminine inside and proud of it, and let guys feel like guys. Of course, they can do the dishes... but they have to feel like GUYS.

Second, physical looks, don't show but suggest your body with flattering clothes, design and colors. Guys will focus on what you reveal: breast, shoulders, belly, butt, legs... Exercise your body, and use feminine weapons such as your voice, hair style, perfume, make-up, gloss, lipstick, nail varnish and jewels. And you will find someone special, because most men will look at you with DESIRE in their eyes.

If you want to know how to make anyone crazy about you, I put everything in the success seduction guide "The French Secrets".

Take care, my friend.


Your French Coach,


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About the author: Doc LAMOUR is a famous international dating expert who resides in Paris, the city of love.