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... I've been in this company for 2 years. There's a girl at my work. I'm sure she looked at me the other day when she was going to the elevator... I really fancy her, but I don't know how I could approach her, or just talk to her. What do you do in France, when you want to talk to a girl?



from Paris-France
the city of Love

Hi Tom,

Just talk to her.

Talk about anything, the wind, the rain, the snow, but not about her. Get in her space even if you're not invited, but with immense respect and tact. This site is aimed at men and women. And I can tell you that many women have asked me the question: how come the guys that we like never talk to us?
So, go for it, mon ami. Faint heart never won fair lady.
Forget about closed questions. A closed question will get you a "Yes or No" answer. Go for opened questions which will get you a full answer.

And learn by heart how you will introduce yourself. Ex:
- Hi, my name's Tom. I'm a civil engineer. I work on the second floor.


You: - Hi, how' re you doing?
Her: - Good.
Bang! she walks away. It's OVER...

If you want to sell something (you, for a start), you need to get a minimum of attention. At least one minute, like the advertising on TV. You have to be quick, special, different. How to deliver your message? Simple. Have you noticed that most advertising that you remember are really different. They're not trying to sell you something. They're just getting your attention. Just BE different. Most attractive girls have been approached already with different techniques, and they're fed up with it. You have to come, not to sell her something, just to let her know that you are there, and different.

Behave as if you were gay. Have you noticed that most girls like affection from gay guys? Why? Just because girls enjoy being with a nice guy without feeling sexually hunted.

You: - Hi, I like your handbag. Where did you get it?
And then, you invent whatever story you want...
Her: - I bought it at Bag store.
You: -Nice. Very nice. Is it colt leather?
Blah blah blah...

Very short conversation. Then:
- OK, I've got to go. My name's Tom. I work on the second floor.
And you?
The question is less direct, so she will be more relaxed. If she does only give you her position, return with question:

And your first name is...?
- Jenny.
- Jenny, it was really nice talking to you.

And you leave her with that very surprising conversation. You didn't beg for anything. You could even be gay. You didn't try to sell yourself and you did not compliment her like tons of guys did it before you. In one word, she knows by now that you are not CHEAP.
Moreover, she learnt your first name and you know hers.

Next time, you meet her:

-Hi Jenny.
Give her the first name as much as possible, and you will break the ice.

If you want to know how to make anyone crazy about you, I put the best tricks in my success seduction guide "The French Secrets".

Bonne chance, Tom.


Your French Coach,


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About the author: French Doc is a famous dating expert and resides in Paris, the city of love.